Talk about icky stuff. The March 30, 2006, Sioux City Journal reports that Travis Frey, 33, of Council Bluffs, is charged with first-degree kidnapping and domestic abuse assault causing injury. He's accused of tying up his wife and sexually assaulting her in April 2005.
Frey's wife read from a document called the "Contract of Wifely Expectations".
The contract contains rules for how she should dress and behave and requires that she be his "sex slave" and do "anything and everything" he wanted. Unless she exhibited "good behavior" and was "totally compliant," the contract threatened "you will be tied to the bed and I will do whatever I wish to you."
Where's Lorena Bobbitt when we need her?
Funny quote in the article: "Prosecutors said the case against Frey is one of rape and domestic abuse and has nothing to do with breach of contract." No kidding . . . .
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ONE DAY LATER: The March 31st edition of Fox News reports that Travis Frey was convicted of sex abuse and domestic assault. He faces up to 11 years in prison.
If you're curious -- and have a strong stomach -- check out the actual 'Contract of Wifely Expectations' at the Fox News web site. Click on 'Contract of Wifely Expectations' and then 'Sicko Marriage Contract -- One for the Ages'.
Hello, Ron --
First, congratulations that your "daughters are happy and normal". From the 4 years of coaching I've done with partners of Borderlines, I can say with authority that not many people divorcing Borderlines can say that. This is a gift that you will value more and more as the years move on.
Re financial relief for the "financially eviscerated" people who divorced Borderlines, I so wish I could offer you some help. Unfortunately, I don't know of any aid to offer you.
The only comfort I can offer is that it could have been much worse than the additional $23,000 you owe. I've spoken with men who have been stuck with hundreds of thousands of dollars in bills, after a brutal divorce from a Borderline.
It's very unfair, but perhaps you could try to concentrate on the happy new life you can now create for yourself, and see the bills as the "cost of freedom".
Keep taking care of your precious daughters. They're the gold of your painful relationship and will bring you much joy in the future.
Posted by: Lynn Melville | August 14, 2010 at 11:29 PM
My divorce from my BPD ex-wife became final just over three years ago. I have paid my attorney over $12,000 and still owe $23,000 for my divorce. My attorney told me after the divorce that it was it was too bad that he hadn't landed the client with money. He also told me that my wife's attorney was paid a $75,000 lump sum from her family and friends before we went to court. I am now a single Dad; my two daughters are court ordered to be with me about 65% of the time. My daughters are healthy and happy and normal! I have a great life now and I find solace in the fact that the direction of my life is now my own. Do you know of any resources that exist for financial relief for those who have been financially eviscerated in their efforts to divorce their BPD partner?
Posted by: Ron | August 14, 2010 at 11:04 PM